When people meet Billy for the first time, they're often amazed at his memory. I have to admit, it's pretty cool to the writer in me to hear my son recite Robert Frost poetry. It's very soothing to hear "Stopping By Woods on a Snowy Evening" in his sweet little voice ... the first 500 times. At 4 a.m., over the baby monitor ... eh, let's just say my appreciation of poetry wanes a bit.

Lately, he's been all about Charlie Brown all the time, repeating lines from "A Charlie Brown Christmas" and the New Year's episode over and over and over ... complete with different voices for the different characters and all the songs, pitch perfect, every word in place. I didn't even realize that song at the beginning of "Charlie Brown Christmas" had words until he started singing them.

A few days ago, I kissed him on the cheek and told him, "I love you, Billy." He kissed me back, put his face very close to mine and said, "Happy New Year, Charles."

It's called "delayed echolalia," this endless repetition. And we're told that it's actually a good sign. It means he can talk, unlike some autistic kids who never develop verbal abilities. All children do it to some degree as they start talking; one mom recently told me that her first words were "We'll be right back after these messages." And as long as Billy starts to replace the repetitive talk with functional language -- and he's doing that already -- there's every belief that he can learn to communicate normally with time.

He repeats what he hears, and occasionally he gets it wrong. In the "12 Days of Christmas," the "eight ladies dancing" became "eight lazy dancers," and "five gold rings" became a plea to "buy gold, please!" -- maybe his own effort at economic stimulus. But I would say he gets it right 98 percent of the time. How many adults can recite all 12 days of Christmas?

There are plenty of times in life when such a perfect memory will be a real asset: spelling bees, the SATs, remembering his lines in a play, winning the final round of Jeopardy. I hope so, anyway, because that's kind of our retirement plan. He'll probably never forget his mother's birthday, to renew the tags on his car, or to turn his clocks back for Daylight Savings Time ... so he's already a few steps ahead of his dad.

In the meantime, we get to hear over and over again how when Leo Tolstoy wrote "War and Peace (the book Charlie Brown reads in 'Happy New Year')," his wife, Sonia, copied the book seven times by candlelight ... with a dip pen. And if you're afraid of responsibility, you have "hypengyophobia" and if you're afraid of cats, "ailurophasia," according to Lucy.

And on the bright side, in a few weeks, it'll be Valentine's Day and we can start over with "You're in Love, Charlie Brown."

Reader Comments

Billy

Amanda, I did not realize that Billy had autism. I cannot conceive of the difficulties that must present you. You should contact Dr. Kelley Knapp-Kline at FSU-PC. She is a Psychology professor here and she has a profoundly autisitc son who is non-verbal. He is around 9 or 11 I believe. He is very destructive and she can having nothing but a mattress on the floor because he destroys everything in sight. She has to put locks not just on all the doors to the outside, but on his bedroom door as well. She said she even had to put locks on the kitchen cabinets because he will climb up and eat everything in the them! She is all about legislature for autism as well. Her email is chrismom928@yahoo.com. She might make a great support person for you. Feel free to tell her I suggested you contact her. Keep on blogging! You are such a good writer and I am enjoying reading your stuff. You need to submit your writing to an Autism magazine for other parents to read.

Beth

Thanks, Beth!

I really appreciate the contact, Beth. I will definitely get in touch with her. Dave and I have tried to get informed and involved about what's going on with legislation at the moment, and I'd love to hear her insight. I realize that we are very lucky with Billy. I can communicate with my child; he smiles at me and hugs me. I even had him throw his arms around me a few weeks ago and for the first time say, "I love you, Mama." My heart really bleeds for those parents who will never hear those words, who fight their battles alone with little support and pray every day for a cure that will bring their child back to them.

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