Today Billy staged a race between a small plastic pig from his toy farm and a tractor. It went on for quite some time. During this race, which went around and around the dining room table, he hummed the "William Tell Overture" (the Lone Ranger song). The pig won -- which might have had something to do with the fact that the tractor was pulling a trailer carrying an astronaut and Linny from the Wonder Pets -- but that's not the point of the story.

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Billy is really starting to explore his imagination. He's starting to make up his own games and tell stories with new endings -- in his own way.

Many of you have been on this journey with us since I started this blog -- and some before that. You know already that we're practicing Floortime therapy, which encourages us to follow the joy of our child. Imaginary play is highly encouraged by this philosophy of autism therapy, because it encourages not only communication, but also problem-solving and thinking more abstractly.

Billy is getting it. He's making progress.

He's still a pretty concrete thinker. He can memorize anything – and I mean anything – that has a name or a number or a specific concrete label. He's not yet four and he has an encyclopedic knowledge of road machinery.

So tell me how a kid who can identify a “steel wheel soil compacter” at 50 yards is incapable of knowing when he needs the bathroom. He's messing with me. I'm telling you that he could use the potty if he wanted to, if it didn't amuse him so much to see me unravel at the seams.

But I guess knowing when he needs to go to the potty – or telling you what color a carrot is, if there's not a carrot in front of him – is still hard. Telling you what he did earlier in the day or yesterday, understanding those vague concepts of time, is next to impossible ... for now.

It's like he lives absolutely in the moment, completely immersed in whatever or whoever he's with. He's not worried about what's going to happen tomorrow, and he's not bothered by what happened yesterday. He is totally with that pig as he crosses the finish line.

I could learn a lot from him.

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A pig, astronaut and tractor

It's fantastic that Billy is engaging in imaginary play with toys, Amanda!
That's quite an accomplishment!
My son, who's 4 and 4 months now, does not do that yet.
(I'd love some tips on how to encourage it. Though his therapists and I have tried...)
Much like your Billy though, my son has a great memory and memorizes names, numbers, song lyrics etc.
Also, much like Billy, he is completely in the moment most of the time, for good and bad.
He's gradually starting to occasionally reply to some questions about what we did the day before, so I'm hopeful.
Anyway: way to go Billy, and Billy's mom!

From Amanda Broadfoot

Thanks so much!

It's taken a while, and the progress has been slow, but we're big proponents of the Floortime/DIR model. I still find myself trying to force games on him sometimes, though, and that never works out well. When that happens, I just take a step back, observe what he's doing for a while. Then I join him and do it too -- like today we drove the dump truck around the play room, filling it up with chalk and dumping it out again and again.

Then I had him dump it out on one of his little people and I made him say, "Ow!" Billy is big into comforting someone who is hurt, so he would try and kiss it better. That didn't, of course, stop him from dumping the chalk on top of the little person again and again. As long as they get a kiss, apparently they can endure anything :-)

If you haven't read it already, I highly recommend Dr. Greenspan's book "Engaging Autism." In it, he lays out the Floortime model and describes his research and theories. It's all based on real science, and basically puts the power in the hands of the parent.

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